mws Posted January 9, 2007 Share Posted January 9, 2007 Another beautiful friend lost to cancer.... ARRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHH! I am so, so very tired of it. Too many, too much pain, too unfair. Grab those you love and give them an extra hug for me, OK? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harbinger Posted January 9, 2007 Share Posted January 9, 2007 :o That sucks Martin! My heart goes out to you and the family of that who passed. Have a beer or two and keep your head up! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trainman Posted January 9, 2007 Share Posted January 9, 2007 Really sucks, have lost two so far in the family (lung and breast cancers). Sympathies to you and the family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pezzy Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 Sorry to hear that Martin... take care of friends and family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
88pathoffroad Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 I'm sorry for your loss, Martin. Get well soon... *hugs* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
packie88 Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 sorry to hear about your loss. i send my regards to you, keep your head up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MaritimeMan Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 Best wishes, and keep fighting the good fight. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NismoSkyZ Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 Sorry for the loss. It seems like nobody knows how important family/friends really are until they are gone Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simon Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 My condolences Martin. Time to be there for friends and family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TerranoNZ Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 I've never seen a dead beat taken by an illness like that. What's that song "Only the good die young" Nothing I say is gonna help ya. We have to make the most of the time we have. My sig seems a little in bad taste in this thread. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slick Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 Sorry for the loss. It seems like nobody knows how important family/friends really are until they are gone well said indeed. my sympathies martin, i know how much it sucks. chin up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Casey.T Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 I'm sorry for your loss, Just remember those we lose, will always remain in our hearts Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oliver Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 I'm sorry to hear that. I can sympathize, I lost my aunt to cancer recently. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mws Posted January 10, 2007 Author Share Posted January 10, 2007 Thank you all for the kind words. It is appreciated. Moving on into acceptance... After too much practice, I seem to be getting good at that. I am very thankful it spared her until her girls turned 18 and started college. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zonianbrat Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 Sorry to hear Martin, I agree we need to appreciate what and who we have alot more. I almost lost my mom last week to conjestive heart failure. It has been rough. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KILLVOX Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 Sorry to hear of your loss. Hang on to the good times. And God bless. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Precise1 Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 I'm sorry Martin. Yes, it seems too much, too soon for you. Best wishes and hang in there. B Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mws Posted January 11, 2007 Author Share Posted January 11, 2007 (edited) My life has been interesting. I was unbelievably blessed and did not lose anyone close to me for the first 30 years of my life. A couple grandparents, but they were in Germany and I had only met them twice. But since then, it's been the opposite. I can't think of a single year when I wasn't impacted by cancer. My mentor, my colleague, several co-workers, one of my best friends, several other good friends. I've lost count of how many I've lost. On the positive, both of my parents fought and won. Strange, that. My colleague was one of the most fit, healthy, strong men I knew. Taken down in only 6 months at age 36. My father, in very poor health, survived lung and 3 rounds of skin cancer. He was in the middle of battling squamous cell cancer in his soft palate when he died, but he was winning round 5 of the cancer battle. Another friend was given 6 months back in 1993. She is still with us - although it does tend to flare up every couple years, and then goes away again. Hard to make sense of it all. But I do know this: I live every day as if it is a precious gift. I WILL NOT postpone my life or happiness for a time when it will be more convenient. I may not get to get there. Every single one has left something behind with me, and I carry their legacy proudly and try to pass on what they have given and taught me to others. Wisdom. Patience. Compassion. Drive. Empathy. The more I give, the more it grows. My frequent question to myself: If I was to find out I have 10 days to live, what would I regret? If it is something I didn't do, I start taking steps immediately to get it done. If it is something I did, I try to make amends, and I commit to never repeating it. Way off topic, and I apologize if it is too deep. But what I have gone through has to be for a reason. And it has been. I am a better person for it. If I can also redirect some of my pain and loss into helping others find the peace and happiness in life that I have found, then it is worth the effort to type these words. Peace, all. Edited January 11, 2007 by mws Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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