Dowser Posted January 22, 2011 Share Posted January 22, 2011 (edited) Well, I figure its time to update everyone on the chaos that is my life. Its been a hell of a whirlwind. In the past 6 years I've moved from the Niagara Falls, Ontario area up to the Minden Area of Ontario which is where I really started to get sucked into offroading. After a short 8 months there it was back to the Niagara area for 2 months, then Up to Northern Alberta where I lived in the Frigid Cold for 2 and a half years. After 3 winters there,(first year arrived on January 1st.) in which time my wife and I had a child, we decided to get the hell out of there and move back closer to family to raise our Daughter. An opportunity for my Wife's profession, (Psychology) presented itself by chance in the Chatham-Kent Region of Ontario, which was lucky because most positions posted are only for Northern parts of Ontario since more populated areas are already saturated with Psychologists. She applied for the job while we were still in Alberta, after a brief phone interview he wanted to meet her in person. This was not a simple as it sounds. At the time our 8 month old daughter was breast feeding and it would require that I go with her to occupy the child for a time. The hard part was going to be getting out of my job for a few days so that I could go. That conversation with my boss didn't go down well and he was not going to let me go. There was no way to change his mind soooooooooo, I quit. Right there on the spot. I quit the only job my family had for income in Northern Alberta in mid July, (winter Fast approaching there) on a gamble of an interview for my wife so we could get the hell out of that desolate place. I almost thru up right then. Turns out it was a great decision. The company liked my wife and hired her on not only as a Psychologist but to supervise and manage 3 out of 4 offices. So I use this unemployment time to scramble to finish jobs on the house we had JUST bought a year earlier to get it ready for the market. We then buy a house in Chatham using the online real estate site MLS, without even setting foot in the house. We had a home inspection done, and had some of our family go take a look at it but us ourselves had not even see it. I then had to have a massive moving sale to get rid of the stuff that was going to cost too much to ship across Canada. Keep in mind that this all happened in a period of 1 month. Real Estate in Northern Alberta was hot and the day we put it up on the market we had a Bid for what we were asking. Which is exactly what it was like when we purchased it a year earlier. We looked at it in the afternoon of the day it came on the market and made an offer for exactly what they wanted but wanted a house inspection, and they said no because someone earlier that day offered them the same amount but no inspection. Their financing fell thru so we got lucky. I'd also like to point out we moved into that house when my wife was 8 months pregnant so there was some scrambling then to get things ready as well. At any rate, Back to the story at hand. In the process of that month, I quit my job, flew down to Chatham for my wife's interview, did a bunch of construction on the house to prep it for resale, had a moving sale, sold the house, sold the 2 pathfinders I had acquired, sent my wife and little girl to her parents place in Niagara Falls via plane while I finished up and packed our last remaining vehicle to drive the long haul across the country. It was now mid August and we took possession of our new house on August 29th. By the time I got home, About a 55 hour drive, without accounting for stopping for food or rest, I had a few days downtime before having to move into our new house. Whew.... Next challenge. After committing to this job, and buying our house, we agreed that I was going to stay home with our daughter for 1 year, then I would return to work so we could start paying off some of the debt we would be incurring during the time I was off. That was the PLAN........ Until we found out we were having our second child. YIKES! My wife's new employer was not too impressed that he just hired someone on to his Private Firm just to have her say in about 6 Months she's going to need to go on maternity leave. Well, financially, we were definitely not prepared for a second but we altered the plan so that it could be doable in the long run. Our new plan was that she would take only 3 months off for Maternity leave, I would raise our kids until My daughter was old enough to go to school since paying for daycare for 2 children is so costly that I would be working full time only to get a couple hundred bucks maybe just to have someone else raise our kids. Once my daughter goes to school, we could afford to send 1 child to daycare and start the effort to pay down this ever increasing debt we had started for ourselves. Fast Forward to the present. So, as of now, My daughter is 3 years 4 months old and my Son is 23 Months old. She will be attending school in Sept which means we can get back on financial track finally........ That is until we found out we were having another Baby. Now let me just say that my Wife and I are not religious people by any stretch of the imagination. But back in November when we first found out that she would be giving birth to the second coming of Jesus Christ we were a bit shocked to say the least. With the amount of action going on in our bedroom, and the bullet proof defenses we put up there is no logical explanation for the conception to suggest otherwise. I was so shocked in fact, that I went back to the bar and yelled at the guy who told me that Saran-A-Wrap and an Elastic was one of the most bombproof contraceptives ever designed.... but in all seriousness, we don't have a clue how it could have happened. And yes, before any of you bastards start telling me to get a DNA test I'm certain since I only unlock her chain so she can go to work and then I chain her back up when she gets home. Sooooooo. ummmm. YAY! Another child on the way! Looks like its time scrap whatever semblance of a plan we had and start fresh. How fresh you ask? Well let me tell you. After 2 and a half years of watching my Daughter and Son I have learned a lot about myself and what it means to have patience. Now I've had many MANY a job over the past 33 years. Many of which I'm not very pleased to have done. Some that were so brutal that they lasted no more then a day. But nothing could have prepared me for raising 2 kids. It has been a very rewarding job in the sense that I've been able to watch them grow, and teach them things, and see all the special first moments that not many Fathers get to see. But, it has been the most mentally taxing job I have ever had. I am worn to shear exhaustion from it and my ability to be patient is gone. So given that fact alone I informed my wife that there would be no way that I would mentally be able to stay home with 3 kids. I would go crazy or end up killing the whole family and that she would have to do it. This of course puts us in a bit of another pickle. What to do then with our house. We most definitely wont be able to afford it. So over christmas we've decided to tell her employer that we will be moving back to the Niagara Area to be closer to our family to get a bit of help with the Onslaught of children that we keep spawning. She mentions that she would like the opportunity to Open an Office in the Niagara Area and continue working for the company. He goes for that proposal and we now have a few months to finish up whatever projects I had going on with the house, which are MANY, and get it ready for resale...... AGAIN. This time I have no interest in purchasing another house for the time being. It will be either rent, or freeloading with family until such time that we can dig a way out of this pit. So the next few months look like they sure will be..........an experience. As for me.... I went to the Doctor and informed him that if I wasn't able to get an appointment quickly enough to make things right, they would see me in the ER with an Elastic Band, some Pruning Shears, and a Zippo. Needless to say, Yesterday, I got my Balls Chopped Off. The good news is that if I want to get my Pathfinder out of the garage it's going to need to be repaired hahahaha. YAY! after a year and a half I may... MAY have a drivable pathfinder again. So that's my story. Not as much lights and glitter as some of you may come to expect but I sure as hell don't have time for that anymore. I now invite you all to laugh at my expense. Oh, and good Guess Precise. I started writing this cause of your PM. Edited January 22, 2011 by Dowser Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Der_Vier Posted January 22, 2011 Share Posted January 22, 2011 I was about to suggest you get the main vain tied off..but you were thinking ahead. 3 kids=3 times the amount of labour output of the house=one tidy house, yard and 3x the speed of projects being finished! In all seriousness, major kudos for being able to stay sane. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skulptr Posted January 23, 2011 Share Posted January 23, 2011 thats quite the story. impressed that you are still here none the less! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Precise1 Posted January 23, 2011 Share Posted January 23, 2011 Well Dowser, it couldn't have happened to a nicer guy... Yeah, it was an easy step from 'what would make him want to be rid of the boys' to 'another Fed Ex package on the way'... You have both my congrats and condolences Bud. It sounds like you are managing fine though albeit at the cost of your already dubious sanity. Have you installed the washer pumps yet?? I look forward to your posting a picture of yourself in an apron and bunny slippers with a child in each arm and one by your side, in the kitchen preferably... B Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nunya Posted January 23, 2011 Share Posted January 23, 2011 awsome visual B! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pezzy Posted January 23, 2011 Share Posted January 23, 2011 Oh Dowser... only you. Congrats and best of luck!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tekazgtr1984 Posted January 24, 2011 Share Posted January 24, 2011 Quite the read, to say the least. By the end, I was stressin' out for you... Best of luck with everything, and the third bundle of joy, too. Now, when you say you got your balls cut off, I'm going to go out on a limb and assume they're still there but they're no longer "connected" to the plumbing... Is that correct? I don't know of many eunuchs in Canada these days. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Precise1 Posted January 24, 2011 Share Posted January 24, 2011 Semantics. They have been in his wife's purse for years... B Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pezzy Posted January 24, 2011 Share Posted January 24, 2011 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dowser Posted January 24, 2011 Author Share Posted January 24, 2011 (edited) Thanks for the best wishes all. As for Sanity.... Well.... It comes and goes. My wife tells me that the clinical term for my issues is not "insanity" but more of a "Just a Asshole" Syndrome. Which is nice to know. As for the Apron and the bunny slippers... Well... I'll see what I can do. I'll have you know that I was VERY pleased to install the Washer Fluid Bottle with the 2 New/used pumps that you sent Precise. Was really kind of you. Now I can tell my daughter that she doesn't have to crawl out the window and spray the windshield with a bottle of windex once it gets up and running. Pezzy, I promise one of these years I'm going to park my vehicle with all my kids next to you and Simon at an Adventure weekend so you can see what kind of hell may await you one day if you're not careful. And as for my balls being completely cut off. Well. I meant it more metaphorically. If I indeed actually cut my Whole bag off, I would have made it into a Man Purse so that way I would have full control over them rather then have my Wife carry them around as Precise mentioned. Truth be hold it would be more like a Backpack. Edited January 24, 2011 by Dowser Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Precise1 Posted January 24, 2011 Share Posted January 24, 2011 Good answer!! Can't imagine what you have been dealing with and not sure I want to... I read it to my wife and she seemed subdued. Perhaps I should have a recording made. You have made it this far so you'll make it through the rest. As for the parts, good luck and be well, eh?? B Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JamesRich Posted January 24, 2011 Share Posted January 24, 2011 Quite the read, to say the least. By the end, I was stressin' out for you... Best of luck with everything, and the third bundle of joy, too. Now, when you say you got your balls cut off, I'm going to go out on a limb and assume they're still there but they're no longer "connected" to the plumbing... Is that correct? I don't know of many eunuchs in Canada these days. The proper term for that is "You unloaded your gun". Good luck Mr mom! I wish my wife made more money than me so I could stay home. Just think when they are a little older you can sit in the lawn chair and direct as the kids wash and maintenance your pathfinder, and do yard work, and bring you a beer when you run out! Then when they get a little older they will be taking your pathfinder, you will be worried they are drinking beer while you are doing the yard work. Anyway sound like you are doing a great job! James Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pezzy Posted January 24, 2011 Share Posted January 24, 2011 Pezzy, I promise one of these years I'm going to park my vehicle with all my kids next to you and Simon at an Adventure weekend so you can see what kind of hell may await you one day if you're not careful. I look forward to that. I'll be sure to bring extra beer that weekend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slick Posted January 24, 2011 Share Posted January 24, 2011 wow! just..... wow! that is one insane story! was wondering what shenanigans you had been getting up to.. my imagination isn't that wild. glad it's all working out for you both, and grats on the kidlets! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unccpathfinder Posted January 29, 2011 Share Posted January 29, 2011 (edited) :takes intense notes: as me and my gf are having our first kid in Feb....I have been on a mad rush to save as much $ as possible while upgrade my pathfinder as much as possible and get her grocery getter running top notch while keeping it trail worthy so we can go wheeling sometime... Good luck! PS I just let her read this post and the blow-out incident and she enjoy's your stories as most do...she also said your a great guy for doing for your family as you have and a good writer and for those who want to read the tire blow out incident it's located here: http://www.nissanpathfinders.net/forum/index.php?showtopic=22919&st=0&p=409153&fromsearch=1entry409153 Edited January 30, 2011 by unccpathfinder Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dowser Posted January 30, 2011 Author Share Posted January 30, 2011 :takes intense notes: as me and my gf are having our first kid in Feb....I have been on a mad rush to save as much $ as possible while upgrade my pathfinder as much as possible and get her grocery getter running top notch while keeping it trail worthy so we can go wheeling sometime... Good luck! Now there's 2 things that have absolutely nothing in common from my experience..... Saving cash and Upgrading the Pathfinder hahahha. I have been amassing parts over the past 2 years and I've been getting pretty stressed lately over how much has been accumulated vs how much is getting installed. Enjoy the last few weeks of individuality. After your little one is born, many many things take a back seat. Not sure what sort of financial shape the 2 of you are in but I'll tall ya, even with a single good income, daycare is pretty spendy. Any more then 1 and its costs you a ton. Its more cost effective to have one of you stay home. Daycare = Wallet Rape. Best of luck man. When you get to the hospital feel good knowing you probably didn't have to learn how to deliver a baby in the back seat of the car like I had to for my First because the Hospital was an hour and a half away. Talk about terrifying. I was more stressed out then she was until we got there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unccpathfinder Posted January 30, 2011 Share Posted January 30, 2011 (edited) Thanks...yea i have the back seat baby fear b/c i work 30 mins away and we don't know anyone here in town and we both don't want her to take an ambulance ride so as soon as she feels like we need to get there she's gonna call me...then i'm gonna hopefully not get a blue light escort b/c i'm not slowing down till i pick her up and we get to the hospital... well i havent saved near as much as i could b/c of hte upgrades but i know once the kid gets here time to work on the truck, wheel the truck and buy parts is going to take a nose dive...She's letting me go to Moab in May for GONE when he's only 3 months old which is only b/c she has the bug and understands that Moab might have its days numbered...in March we have to fly to CA to show him to her family there and to her 2 kids there (that's gonna be the monkey wrench in time)...basically once we get married those 2 will come to live with us...i halfway support them already and she flies out every 30-45 days to see them for 7-21 days...this last trip was pretty stressful for me b/c she had 2 hospital visits but all is good and yes...i'm trying to get everything taken care of b/c i know my time is gonna be between work and the lil man...work isn't going to be happy with me but screw'em (they're already frustrated with me b/c i only get 45 hrs a week but I need to be home spending time with the gf and helping her as much as i can so 45 hrs lets me get home early enough to do that... on the plus side we've got basically everything we need...only thing we're missing are bottles, crib (if we decide not to use the one i used when i was a baby; i had no clue my mom kept all what she did for 27 years) and the bumpers/sheets etc but we've got some time on that since we got the bassinet.... my biggest thing is cleaning up the "garage", in conventional apartments this is where the dining room table goes...i currently have 5 33x12.5R15 tires and wheels along with all of my camping gear, rolling tool box and some spare parts...so i'm selling the wheels and tires and gettin some shelves to put all my other crap on and some sort of baby gate to keep him out of there even when its organized... She'll be a stay at home mom for at least 2-3 years and hopefully during that time she can take some night courses and get along with her education as prior to meeting me wasn't a driving factor but since we have been dating (about 1.5 years) she has found some new aspirations to grow professionally which is fine with me as long as someone else isn't raising our kid(s) as we plan to have a 2nd if she's able after this one but only time and a Dr can tell us that just saw 19 and counting...holy hell what is wrong with those people? Edited January 30, 2011 by unccpathfinder Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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