ahardb0dy, my 95 pathfinder we just got does the same thing, RPMS can go as high as 3k-4.5k before it shifts if I dont let off the gas completely and trick it into shifting, and thats just accelerating like a grandma.... slow accelerating, probably less than half throttle. 
  
we picked up the filter and fluid and are about to tackle this, but wondering how it worked out for you? 
  
THANK YOU filthy lurker for the PICS, should save some time.